How to solve problems when your home and family are not your “comfort zone”
Not all ‘Home’ is a safe and happy area for everyone. Many people now see that ‘Home’ has become a non-Comfort Zone because it is full of family members trying to make everything Toxic for us. Including having fights, sarcasm, building up pressure, expectations, etc. If you are one of those people who are dealing with a Toxic occurring in the house. This article will take you through 3 solutions to help solve problems with your family and maintain a healthy relationship.
1. Try to find an opportunity to talk with the family
If you still want to maintain your relationship with your family perhaps it is a good idea to express your feelings or say that you are not okay with the situation in the home to the family members. Because sometimes the family member does not aware that it will create a wound in your heart. For example, If your parents force you to go to A faculty because they think when you graduate you will have a stable job. But you want to go to the B faculty because you believe you have the potential to improve yourself in this faculty. You should open up to your parents and tell them the reasons why you want to join the faculty and how you will develop yourself and explain the long-term plan. Reassure them that what you choose is really what you have in mind I believe that if a parent really hopes the best for their child, they must understand and accept our reasons. Another example, If your parents like to compare you with other children, or even compare with your siblings, then you can tell them honestly that you feel bad and regret what your parents are doing. Also, there is no benefit from the comparison at all.
2. Find other people who will support your feeling instead of your family
When the family can no longer be a safe space for you, why not try to find other people who can listen to you and help you. Many people who view their home as a place that is not a comfort zone will often have friends or girlfriends/boyfriends as their support instead. Which these people are very important because they not just listening to us but If something violent happens inside the house you can always reach out to them for help or if you are in a situation where you don’t know who to rely on. Even friends are not our comfort zones, you may want to try talking to a psychiatrist or talking to a therapist. To release what you are going through. This group of experts will provide you with good advice and make you feel relieved.
3. Move out from the house
If you can afford to support yourself moving out It’s just another way to keep you from having to face trouble at home again. It also gives you more peace of mind and has your own space. Relationships with your family members will not get worse, because sometimes being together will be more harmful than good. But if you can’t move out of the house right away for a variety of reasons, such as being dependent on parental money or still studying. You may need to find a private space in your home that can be used as a safe zone for you, whether it’s your bedroom or the bathroom. Because when you feel bad with your family you will have that space where you can be separated from your family immediately.
Thai society always teaches people who are children to be grateful and obedient to their parents. Many times, when parents or other members of the family do things that do not empathize with us, or even more seriously, harm us. We did not dare to speak it out for fear of becoming ungrateful. But in reality, there is no need for you to put up with anything that hurts you. Find a new safe zone that makes you feel comfortable and happy because only you will be with you forever.
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